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Jenna Bush to lose her virginity

Jenna Bush, the 27 year old daughter to U.S. President George W. Bush, says she is "scared and nervous" about losing her virginity after her wedding to University of Virginia Graduate student Henry Hager.

"I have never had sex before", the presidential daughter declared in a candid interview. "I hope it's as much fun as people say it is".

Jenna claimed that she had reservations about losing her virginity and wanted to wait until she and her husband had been married at least three years before commencing with the deed. However, her mother and several close friends encouraged her to have sex on her wedding night.

"I think it would be wonderful if Jena lost her virginity on her wedding night", First Lady Laura Bush stated. "It took George almost 6 months before he could get it up".

Not everyone agreed that Jenna losing her virginity was a good idea. President Bush claimed, "sex should only be used for producing offspring. I hope my daughter understands that. We had a conversation about the birds and the bees two years ago".

Jenna claimed that she has read much about sex but has never enjoyed the experience mostly because she has been followed around by secret service agents her whole life.

"We have made sure that the first daughter retained her wholesomeness and purity until after she was married", said a Secret Service officer who asked not to be named. "However, we did party with her and got drunk a few times".

"I am looking forward to having sex with my husband", Jenna continued. "I just hope he doesn't expect me to put his penis in my mouth".

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History of Virginity

A book review by Yujean Park at Feminist Review, of Virgin: The Untouched History :   

The very first sentence of this book is, “By any material reckoning, virginity does not exist.” So then, why have cultures and societies maintained such an investment in virginity, even today? This introduction opens the floodgates to a challenge that author Hanne Blanke tackles in researching and analyzing the history of virginity (and its loss) as a social construct with deep cross-cultural relevance.

Virgin: The Untouched History introduces multiple definitions of virginity, careful not to legitimize one over the other or specify a singular, universally applicable version. She studies virginity from a variety of angles, approaching it from anatomy, species, cultural representations, and more.

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As Blanke is a historian and approaches her subject matter from a historical perspective, she shows a critique of the virginal construct in that it is almost exclusively heteronormative; the claims and values surrounding it target an assumedly universally heterosexual audience. The fundamental message of her book, which is to challenge the notion of virginity as a static, universal, and monolithic idea, is successfully and succinctly achieved in her work. Virgin: The Untouched History is a valuable work that will increase understandings of female sexuality, bodies, and cultural production.

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‘Virginity’ shirts stir dispute

The Albemarle school division denied Thursday an allegation that officials at Albemarle High School warned female students not to wear T-shirts promoting abstinence.

That allegation was made by the Rutherford Institute — a national nonprofit legal organization based in Charlottesville dedicated to the defense of civil liberties — in a letter sent to Superintendent Pam Moran on Thursday morning. The Rutherford Institute is representing an AHS student.

The T-shirts read “Virginity rocks” on the front and “I’m loving my husband and I haven’t even met him! MyLifeMyCall.com” on the back. The shirts are part of a campaign by Worth Your Wait, a nonprofit abstinence education group based in Ruckersville.

In the letter to Moran, John Whitehead, the president and founder of the Rutherford Institute, threatened legal action if students are not allowed to wear the T-shirts.

But a statement released Thursday afternoon by the school division said that the T-shirts are acceptable and that no warnings or other administrative actions against students had taken place.

According to the school division’s version of events, several AHS students wearing the T-shirts asked Principal Matt Haas in April if the shirts were acceptable. Haas said they were.

“I appreciate the opportunity to share the full facts of this situation, and can assure our students and their parents that Albemarle County Public Schools works very hard to protect all the rights of our students, including free expression, as we strive to provide a positive and productive learning environment,” Moran said in a statement.

Whitehead agreed that Haas acknowledged the students’ right to wear the T-shirts. But several lower-level school employees at AHS continued to tell students to cover up the T-shirts, he said.

“Where there is smoke, there is fire,” Whitehead said.

Whitehead claimed victory Thursday evening and said that no legal action would be taken as long as students are allowed to wear the shirts.

“We’re happy that school officials agree with us and the students can wear the shirts,” he said. “The schools can’t fight us on this because the law is on our side. If the schools stick to allowing the shirts, we’ll be fine. But if they divert from it, we’ll be back.”

Abstinence is part of the sex education curriculum throughout the state of Virginia.

Whitehead also said that a student at Charlottesville High School was asked to cover up a “Virginity rocks” T-shirt.

City schools spokeswoman Cass Cannon could not confirm that claim but added that school officials were not even aware of the T-shirts until media inquiries on the issue began coming in Thursday.

This is not the first time that a T-shirt has caused a controversy in the area. In 2002, Alan Newsom, then a student at Jack Jouett Middle School, sued the county school system after being forced to turn a National Rifle Association T-shirt inside out. The shirt bore silhouettes of three target shooters and the words “NRA Sports Shooting Camp.”

The 4th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals ruled unanimously that the dress code at Jouett — which banned clothing with images of weapons — was too broad. Newsom reached a private settlement with the school system and the dress code was changed to allow images of weapons as long as the weapons are not displayed in an unlawful, violent or threatening manner. 

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Do Men Value Virginity

Let us start this topic by dwelling on the question that “what is virginity”. Virginity can be taken to define the state of a person who has never ever had sex with a member of the opposite sex, till date. A person who has already has sexual encounters will be termed as a non-virgin. In the earlier times, virginity was thought to be one of the desirable attributes of a person about to get married for the first time. However, the desire was concentrated more in case of a woman, as compared to a man. With time, the equation seems to have changed little.

 

Double Standards

Men have as many affairs and one-night stands as they want, but when it comes down to marriage, they want a woman who is completely innocent, and untouched till date. Though they want to indulge in pre-marital sex, they won't accept a female who has indulged in sex before marriage as their wife. With time, our society has progressed to quite an extent. However, the concept of having a virgin wife hasn’t changed too much. Even today, there is a significant proportion of men, who would squirm at the mere thought of having a wife who is not a virgin.

 

The Other Side

Though the chauvinism of guys is still rampant, there are some for whom marrying a non-virgin wife is not such a big issue. They do not hold a certain set of standards for themselves, while prescribing a different one for their better half. Such guys accept the fact that having a past is no big deal, as long as you are faithful and loyal to your present partner. These men do not limit the basis of a relationship to merely the physical realm. Rather, they believe marriage to be the union of the soul as well as the mind.

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Miley Cyrus and the Hannah Montana Virginity Vow: Is She Serious?

Did Hannah Montana star Miley Cyrus take a vow of virginity?  Her pals "The Jonas Brothers" have famously said that they will wait until marriage until they have sex, but what about Miley Cyrus? The boys say they have taken a vow of chastity until they find the right woman and eventually marry.  Now her "vow" has landed her on the cover of In Touch and they ask, "Miley's virginity vow, "How Serious is She?"
    

                  

Miley Cyrus and the Hannah Montana Virginity Vow: Is She Serious? (Image: Wenn)

   
Nick Jonas and Miley were rumored to be a teen item earlier and many wondered if they could maintain control. Nick and Miley denied any relationship with the inevitable "just friends" line that is so often used to try and downplay rumors.  Most reports concluded that they had split.

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But with all of the wild behavior from Miley many have wondered exactly what is going on with the Disney starlet.  "Miley's not as innocent as she appears.  She actually got grounded once for sneaking a boy into her bedroom." - a source told Star Magazine earlier.

The magazine reports that and all of this naughty behavior and those racy photos have her mother worried sick!  According to a family friend, Tish Cyrus wants Miley to stop working so much, fearing all this attention so soon in her young life will lead her down the same tragic path as Disney alum Britney Spears.  Can she put the brakes on Miley Cyrus star Miley Cyrus and get her to behave.

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New Book -- My Virginity is Ruining My Sex Life: Solutions to Christian Dating Challenges!

May 6th 2008 –Christian women and youth face many challenges in the dating arena. If you’ve ever wondered how to make your relationships, author Vivian Elebiyo offers practical advice in her new, humorously written book, My Virginity is Ruining My Sex Life.

“A Christian’s life is all about purity and abstinence,” says Elebiyo, host of the online radio talk show Sex and the Single, which airs every Saturday on www.blogtalkradio.com/datingundertheinfluence. “But women continue to get the proverbial mixed message. My work focuses on highlighting the choices women have...making them crystal clear.”

My Virginity is Ruining My Sex Life shows single women how to identify what, and who, shapes their notions about sex; re-define virginity, sex, and their sense of self; re-evaluate their dating relationships; make a personal decision to save sex for marriage; and set attainable boundaries in their relationships.

“Ignorance is bliss, but education is freedom,” says Elebiyo, a

Florida

certified abstinence educator. “It’s important to learn about the pitfalls of dating in order to make sound decisions about what you want out of life, and how to develop relationships that support these goals.

In My Virginity is Ruining My Sex Life, Elebiyo draws on stories from her own life, and from the lives of others, to show youth how to maintain their purity and abstinence by directing their sexual energies into productive ventures that will enhance their lives. She outlines various dating scenarios, and coaches readers on handling them effectively.

A seasoned speaker and new voice in the publishing world, Elebiyo is available for a lively discussion on how to re-direct sexual energy, and achieve what you want out of your relationships. Among other topics, Elebiyo is available to discuss...

• Dating tips and how to set boundaries.

 

• Various types of men, and how to deal with them.

• Tools to saying No to premarital sex.

• Why her books are crucial to women and youth.

• What she has learned from being the host of the Blogtalk online radio show, Sex and the Single.

• How she was negatively and positively influenced by the stories she heard as a young Nigerian girl about the ancient traditions / rites of passage women and men experienced.

• As a professional speaker and life coach, Vivian has covered a variety of topics both online and in her books. From lectures for single women (A Single Chic’s Guide to Waiting While Dating and 101 Things to Do Before You Say I Do) and topics for the entrepreneur such as Minding Your Own Business, to dealing with rape, career planning and goal setting for teenagers, and spirituality, she’s done it all. There is an underlying thread that connects everything she does; there is a vital reason behind here desire to share her experiences with others.

Availability: Immediate availability nationwide for radio and television.

My Virginity is Ruining My Sex Life is available online and at selected stores nationwide.

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Ellie Levenson: Sex education? Don't expect it from teachers

The NSPCC, which runs the Childline helpline for children to ring with their problems, has said that nearly 50 children a day call its helpline because they feel under pressure to have sex, and has called for schools to teach the emotional side of sex alongside the biological facts.

I'm not sure that I would have been happy being taught about emotions by my teachers. I am friends with several teachers and their love lives are just as complex and emotional as anyone else's. In fact, one of my former teachers told me recently that my school offered its staff a particularly good social life, and that teachers who spent their spare time coupling up then compared notes in the staff room.

I used to joke that from all the lessons I had at school, I could only really remember acquiring two pieces of knowledge from teachers that have stuck with me. First was that pyramids are strong structures, so if someone is pushing you over you should try to place your legs shoulder width apart and make a human shaped pyramid. Second was Brownian motion which explains, amongst other things, how the smell of farts move across the room. Neither of these have saved me from any heartbreak, but both have proved useful in other ways.

But somehow we expect teachers to know the answers to all of life's problems, and to teach it in a way that will stick with us throughout our lives. I teach journalism to adults a couple of days a week at one of the University of London colleges and also have a pastoral role as a personal tutor. Sometimes students come to me with problems unconnected to their studies. They seem to think that as a teacher I may have some kind of superior knowledge about life lessons. I've lost count of the number of times in the past that they have come to me to say they were having trouble concentrating because of problems with their boyfriend or girlfriend. "Me too," I would want to say, biting my lip instead and passing them over a box of tissues.

But even if I was vested with the kind of knowledge that could help them avoid this kind of upset, I'm not sure I should be passing it on. For although it involves a lot of heartbreak, one of the joys of relationships is that you learn your own lessons and you do so the hard way. Going out with the person with rugged good looks and a motorbike but who has a reputation as a bounder and a cad – yes of course it will end in tears, but would you ever want to be denied the opportunity to find that out for yourself? Watching your phone, having given someone your number? A teacher may be able to warn their charges that it never will ring but would you ever listen? Nor should we. If we listened to people who told us someone was a no good 'un or that it would all end in tears, our lives and experiences would be far less rich. Some things you just have to find out for yourself.

There is a tendency when journalists write about young people having sex to let rip with a torrent of moral outrage and to assume they are being pressured into it. But one thing we adults often forget to attribute to children is that sometimes when they say yes, they mean yes. The children ringing Childline may feel pressurised when it comes to sex but there are plenty of teenagers having consensual sex and yes, enjoying it. In fact the only pressure I ever had as a teenager about sex was from myself, determined to lose my virginity just as soon as I could, though admittedly it took me rather a long time to find someone to do this with.

The fact is that the age of consent is a pretty arbitrary age, chosen because any later and it would be meaningless as young people become sexually mature and choose to flout the rules. Already it does a disservice to those who become sexually mature at a younger age and, in acting on their urges, end up breaking the law. And while I do of course have a problem with much older people taking advantage of young people, I am not concerned with whether they have sex or not when exploring their natural desires with people of a similar age. I know people who lost their virginity aged 14, and I know people who lost it well into their twenties and there is no correlation between length of time waited and whether you have a stable emotional and sexual life as an adult.

So sorry to the NSPCC but I'd rather schools stuck to teaching facts rather than emotions. If children are armed with biological facts about how things work, access to contraception, confidence to say no when they want to and knowledge about rectifying mistakes when they do happen, such as how to access emergency contraception, the emotions can be learnt as they go along.

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From UrbanDictionary.com

                  
                                                                     

virgin

1. A person who has not yet engaged in sex because they are waiting for true love. 2. A person who has not yet engaged in sex because they are so socially crippled that whenever they are around the opposite sex they begin to hiss and fart uncontrollably. 3.  A person who has not yet engaged in sex because they are too young. 4.  A person who has not yet engaged in sex because they are waiting for marriage.                                                               1.  I am a virgin because I'm waiting for my true love before I have sex!  I also believe in unicorns. 2.  I am NOT a virgin!  Does cyber-sex count? 3.  Dude, I know you like virgins, but checking out the pre-schoolers is both creepy and illegal. 4.  I'm a virgin because God doesn't want me to have sex yet.  He also wants you to give me five bucks. Click Here to view the original post.

I'm still a virgin and I'm 33

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I'M A 33-year-old man and I'm a virgin. I've had several short-lived relationships which rarely got to any sort of intimate stage.

I've slept with girls, but never had intercourse. I don't masturbate, either. I never have. I'm not able to arouse myself.

I still have wet dreams/nocturnal emissions. I always associated this with puberty and wonder if it's normal to still have them. I usually awaken at climax and almost subconsciously try to suppress the feelings.

I haven't had any sort of relationship for the past couple of years because I'm frightened I'll be a failure in the bedroom stakes.

The older I get, the worse I feel about this. I'm not interested in one-night stands, either. I have too much respect for myself and others.

I'm a pretty normal bloke with a reasonably good social life and I had an ordinary upbringing, so I don't know what could be causing all this.

I would really love to have a relationship and feel I'm being left on the bench.

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You can see yourself that virginity is not the issue here. Your problem isn't the absence of a meaningful relationship. That loneliness is simply a result of the real issue.

You don't allow yourself sexual expression. Coming out of a deep sleep, you're fighting nature. That's a pretty comprehensive sexual taboo you have going there. You've locked your sexuality away.

It doesn't help to battle about whether your upbringing was normal or not, or ordinary as you put it. It's crystal clear that some time early on you decided, for good psychological reasons, that your sexuality had to be totally repressed. Something seriously scared you, scorched you in fact.

Of course, you didn't sit down and plan it, nor was it necessarily a one-off incident. Fear can be compacted in our souls by a series of unrelated events.

Trauma is often the result of an unfortunate combination of circumstances. I don't know what those circumstances were. I do know that your sexual shut-down is surprisingly complete.

And since all such psychological manoeuvres are a response to fear, you must have been very fearful indeed.

I suggest you seek professional help. I imagine you need a strong and steady figure by your side as you go through the process of unravelling your emotional past.

My intention is not to scare you. I just think we should have due regard, and real respect, for the enormous creativity of the unconscious mind. It strives always to keep us safe and functioning by holding terror at bay, which is why we should unravel it with care.

All this happened when you were young and emotionally vulnerable. As an adult, you would handle it differently. That's what therapy offers you, namely the chance to go back and look at past trauma, with the strength of your adult persona, and the calm presence of a professional witness. And I'm using the word witness deliberately here. Therapists don't have the answers. The answers are all inside you.

Go find them.

- Patricia Redlich

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Internet porn ‘encourages teenagers to have sex early'

EXPOSURE TO INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY LEADS TEENAGERS TO LOSE their virginity at a "much younger" age, researchers have found. A peer reviewed study from the journal CyberPyschology and Behaviour revealed that males aged between 12 and 17 who regularly viewed porn had sex at an earlier stage in their lives and were more likely to initiate oral sex, apparently imitating what they had watched.

Scottish experts warned that the rise in the viewing of pornography was implicated in a variety of sexual problems - including a rise in levels of STDs and teenage pregnancies - and called for parents to be more aware of what their children were watching.

Shane Krauss, a psychologist working from Castleton State College in Vermont, surveyed hundreds of people and found that men who had watched pornography between the ages of 12 and 17 were sexually active before those who hadn't. Women who had watched pornography at similar ages - a lower percentage than men - becamesexually active slightly younger.

          

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Krauss said: "The internet is having some kind of accelerant effect, influencing and changing behaviour. Males are having oral sex and losing their virginity much younger when they are exposed to pornography, sometimes by a good three or four years for oral sex or two years for their virginity."

Catherine Harper, representative of Scottish Women Against Pornography, has worked with young people at the sexual health charity the Brook Advisory for 11 years. She claimed certain forms of venereal diseases - such as chlamydia of the eye - had been spread by men coercing their partners into performing sex acts copied from pornography.

She said: "The internet is where you get the most extreme stuff, sometimes live and in action, and it serves to normalise abusive acts."

A rise in rates of oral sex has been linked to an increase in numbers of tongue, mouth and throat cancers caused by the sexually transmitted human papilloma virus. Rates of the disease are at a 30-year high and are particularly prevalent among young men.

Sue Maxwell, a psychosexual therapist at Relationship Scotland, said she felt young men were too often getting their sexual information from pornographic websites rather than the many "excellent" sites set up by the government.

She said: "Men are affected by internet sexuality more than women. Instead of developing a relationship based on thinking what do you want, what do I want,' they go for something that gives them another high and in to compulsive behaviour, seeking out another sexual experience more sexually enthralling than the previous one.

Sex education in schools is insufficient, claimed Anna Martinez, head of the Sex Education Forum. She said: "Young people continue to tell us that there is a big gap between the sex education they need and the sex education they are getting in school, and from parents.

"In the absence of good quality sex education, it is little wonder they turn to alternative sources of information including porn in the search for answers."

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